Disclaimer: Spoilers for “The Weddings” episode of Love is Blind Season 8 are under.
Effectively, nicely, nicely. Right here we’re. We made it by way of some pretty boring pod episodes (till the Madison/Meg/Alex/Mason showdown), a complete lot of nice lady energy (taking a look at you, Molly — we stan a woman’s lady), and a few extremely awkward political talk from a number of {couples} to finish up right here on the weddings episode of Love is Blind Season 8. 4 {couples} had been set to get married and put a giant FOREVER stamp on their relationship and… nicely.
4 {couples} did not get married.
Taylor and Daniel, the lovely couple with tremendous supportive households and a shared love of Christmas (how authentic) made it to the altar like everybody thought they might. Joey and Monica… didn’t. However I do not suppose that was too stunning — followers have been clocking for some time that it felt like Monica was extra into Joey than he was her (or at the least was prepared to indicate), and even Monica selected herself on the altar by turning down the wedding and sharing that she desires to marry somebody who loudly and proudly says they need her. Sure, lady. Queen. Slay. You’ll discover somebody who 100% deserves you and your power and loves you a lot that they can not maintain it in a single second longer.
However now let’s discuss Virginia and Devin, and Sara and Ben.
Guys. Why are y’all so lazy?
Should you want a refresher, each of those {couples} had moments after the Honduras journey the place their political identities and ideas of social justice got here up. For Sara and Ben, this dialog continued from the pods the place Ben had the audacity to say he tried to “keep out of” Black Lives Matter and truly did not even vote within the 2020 election. For Virginia and Devin, it was fairly obvious that that they had by no means talked about these items earlier than. However when Devin, in what felt like an I am-bored-of-this-conversation voice, requested Virginia if their voting in a different way would matter, you can inform it completely would to her. Virginia was vocal about her ideas on abortion and on equality for the LGBT neighborhood, and Devin simply had… nothing to say.
With Sara and Ben, she continued to deliver up conversations that mattered to her. Conversations about Ben’s love of church, asking him if he can be prepared to discover a church whose views aligned with their very own, sharing with him her deep beliefs in equality and attending Satisfaction and being an ally with not solely her phrases however her actions.
And Ben merely could not get on board. He insisted that her persevering with to deliver “this” up diminished the opposite methods they linked, and he felt it was merely sufficient to say, “We do not have opposing views” and depart it at that.
So, yeah, 100%, these marriages did not work out as a result of the lads refused to get on the identical web page as the ladies relating to very important issues. The ladies put within the work; the lads didn’t deliver the identical power. Each Virginia and Sara realized on the altar that there was no manner they might commit to those males, males who refused to hear, who refused to do the work, who refused to show that that they had the identical values. Each males had been extraordinarily vocal all through their six-week relationship that that they had unreal, extremely deep connections with their fiancées, and nicely, survey says that was a lie.
Up till Sara hesitated on the altar, I completely thought she was going to marry Ben. She had defended this man again and again, insisting that that they had the identical core values and that she knew he may finally be as progressive as her; he simply wanted to study and have his time. However she actually nailed it in her interview after she left Ben on the altar, sharing you can’t marry somebody for his or her potential — as a result of they will by no means meet that potential.
In Virginia and Devin’s state of affairs, Virginia shares that, after she left Devin on the altar, she was fairly damage by his concept that she wasn’t voting in alignment along with her religion as a democrat.
And the worst half is you’ll be able to inform how a lot these girls needed their marriages to occur. How a lot they actually needed these males to be their husbands. I do know that Love is Blind is a actuality present. However you’ll be able to’t pretend that sort of heartbreak on the altar. Nonetheless, very like Monica had, Sara and Virginia selected themselves earlier than they selected their relationship. They realized these items that mattered to them had been non-negotiables. And actually, it is how so many ladies are considering as of late. Earlier than 2016, I’d’ve argued that individuals with opposing political opinions and ideas on main social issues may possibly work it out.
However a lot’s happened in eight years, and that has undoubtedly modified the courting panorama. Girls who’re progressive and vocal, girls who present their assist with motion, girls who really feel it is important to be an ally for marginalized communities and need to struggle for the rights of all, have zero time for males who cannot be bothered to vote. For males, a lot of their life stays the identical, no matter who they voted for, and sadly, Love is Blind has proven that many males nonetheless have numerous work to do within the empathy division. When it is by no means occurred to you to fret about anybody however your self, it is onerous to start out as an grownup.
Girls have never had that luxury.
As a lot because it pained me to see Virginia and Sara hurting on what ought to’ve been their magical once-in-a-lifetime wedding ceremony days, I am so pleased with them. I do not know them, however I need to sweep them up in a hug. They did what was greatest for them and for the worth of their lives, and the lads now need to reside with a really unhappy consequence of what occurs whenever you faux like nothing’s taking place.
As a result of my dudes, so much is occurring. Your fiancées tried to let you know.
And now you are without end immortalized on Netflix as weenies.
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