For those who instantly discovered that your mother and father hated the identify they bestowed upon you, would you modify it to appease them? One teenage son wonders if he’s within the incorrect after refusing to vary his birth name as a consequence of his mother and father’ remorse. Now, he’s turning to the ever-entertaining “Am I The A**hole?” subreddit thread for some outdoors opinions.
“I am (16m) my mother or father’s youngest child and the one child the identify primarily based on what they favored vs what the household needed them to call us,” he begins earlier than explaining that every one his siblings have been named after members of the family.
“By the point they obtained round to having me they have been dwell f**okay this s**t and informed their household they have been selecting a reputation primarily based on what they favored and never primarily based on household. In order that they named me Sunny. Yeah, the ‘lady model’ of Sonny. I do not care. I do not assume Sunny is girly as a result of it has a u vs an o …”
Across the time the OP turned ten, he began to really feel like his mother and father weren’t too eager on his identify, saying that his mother and father even began referring to him by his center identify. He expressed to them that, regardless of their weirdness, he favored his identify and didn’t even wish to go by a nickname.
“Final yr they mentioned some children change their names earlier than graduating highschool as a result of they need one thing extra grown up they usually wish to save the added expense of adjusting the identify on their diploma. I used to be like oh, I suppose if individuals need that it is sensible. Then I mentioned it should suck to hate your identify,” he wrote earlier than noting that, regardless of voicing a number of instances that he favored his identify, his mother and father started giving him various names.
“Six months in the past my mother and father mentioned I appear like a James nicknamed Jamie. I requested them why they thought that they usually mentioned I simply had that look. They requested what I considered the identify and I mentioned I like Jamie however want Sunny. Then they requested if I favored the identify Luke and I mentioned no.”
“In June they requested me if I’d think about letting them change my identify to one thing completely different. They mentioned they really feel like they named me as an enormous f**okay you to their households however felt unhealthy that I had such an unserious identify for a person,” he wrote.
“I informed them I did not wish to change my identify and I at all times liked the way in which they talked about discovering my identify. They mentioned their emotions had modified they usually felt just like the identify being cute and lightweight and stuffed with hope wasn’t nice for going into my grownup years. They mentioned they deeply regretted it. I informed them I used to be glad they made the selection they did they usually should not stress it.”
Although he set clear boundaries, stating a number of instances that he didn’t wish to change his identify, his mother and father got here residence with paperwork for a authorized identify change, supplied up three names, and mentioned he ought to take his choose.
“I informed them I am not altering my identify due to their identify remorse. I informed them how I really feel about my identify is extra necessary now. They informed me I ought to at the least consider their emotions and that I ought to think about the longer term and whether or not I will be taken severely. AITA?” he requested.
A number of Reddit customers agreed with this sentiment, additionally remarking that his mother and father have been completely and utterly out of line.
“I imply, that is simply unhappy: ‘being cute and lightweight and stuffed with hope wasn’t nice for going into my grownup years.’ OP, please go forth into your grownup years being cute and lightweight and stuffed with hope,” one consumer wrote.
“Actually your mother and father sound a bit unhinged. Sadly at 16 they’ll legally change your identify with out consent within the US (at the least within the majority of states). The upside is that it is possible for you to to legally change it again once you flip 18,” one other wrote.
“Make it clear to your mother and father that in the event that they have been to try this there can be severe long run penalties on your relationship and that you’ll NEVER reply to or acknowledge that identify beneath any circumstances and can have your identify modified again the day you flip 18.”
“NTA however your mother and father seem like scuffling with some main psychological well being points. Possibly speak to one of many counsellors at your college about what is going on on at residence.”
One other echoed, “NTA. it feels like your mother and father are extra involved about their emotions concerning your identify than your emotions. that identify is yours, you are your individual individual, and when you do not wish to change your identify since you prefer it, then do not. these are their emotions to dwell with, and placing them on you as a toddler is unfair and bizarre. i even have a climate identify and that i nonetheless like it, and i am virtually thirty. extra energy to you!”
Okay, initially, Sunny is the best and most enjoyable identify ever! Second, nobody goes to take a look at a resume or have Sunny in for an interview and switch him away due to his identify. Let’s be actual!
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